Trump Not Racist, Just Insecure!

insecurity-iiiBy Atiba Madyun
This morning, I saw posts calling #Trump a racist. I cannot tell you what to do, but allow me to share why I suggest we STOP calling him and others racist!!
First it’s a bad word corrupted from overuse! A veiled way of calling a white person, nigger.
The truth is Trump insecure! And he is ‘trumpery’. He is the Hitler of our day, riling up his factions, dangling a promise of a world void of anyone but the so-called master race. Ironic, this Hitler is no different than the sorcerers in the story of Pharoah and Moses.  The audience in awe of his tricks are filled with so much hate for others, but love his message and don’t know it is all a mirage.
Talk about his little hands, deny him an award and he whines like a little boy.  And his followers take up for him.  Trump seeking the roar of the crowd, wows them with his magic that comes in the form of words.  Like the Hunger Games he yells anything to see what catches their attention.  With roar of the crowd feeding his ego, he yells we are going to build a wall and they crowd goes wild.  So tall and so wide, his words barely can be heard now because roar is so loud.  When they settle down, he gets them going again, we are going to keep the Muslims out.  The crowd in a frenzy now feed what he needs the most, adulation and followers.  I’ve got 12 million Twitter follows he thinks, they love me.  His insecurity abated, the crowd feeding on his every word has hope.   Their leader is a master builder with great hotels all around the world that they could never afford to stay in.  But he’s going to build us a wall so grand that we won’t need a hotel as long as we can talk about the bad people, and they can’t get to us!
Who are the bad people?  I found them.  Guess what, the bad people, are all insecure. In this world, nothing is what it seems.  And that’s why they need that wall.  Before Trump, they were in their homes talking about the Mexicans, the Blacks and don’t forget the Muslims!  The women were talking against their interests believing now that a woman should never be President.  That is the job of a man.
This false sense of hope, and need for a wall is what those who we call racist, misogynist and xenophobic want so they can take the mask off that covers their insecurity.
Call them these words and it doesn’t hurt.  Not the way you want it to.  Their skin is toughened and those words are a badge of honor.  Don’t believe me?
Men think about anytime someone called you insecure.  It could have been when you were very young, but I guarantee you didn’t like it.  And women, think about how many times a man has called you insecure.  Then think about the time you called a man in your head or out loud insecure.  How did he react?
No man, especially Trump wants to be called insecure.  But, a man who has a show, where he gets immense pleasure firing people and hurting them is nothing less than insecure. He is secure knowing its his show and who is going to fire him?
I never got the fascination with this show.  Maybe because I know what if feels like to fire people.  While every firing was justified, I never found pleasure doing it.  The person you fire you hates you, you hate them for making you have to fire them and no one walks away with any love for the other.
On the other hand, when you make a good hire, one that you are pleased with, at least on paper, everyone is happy.  The employer is happy to find someone to help carry the workload and the employee is happy to have a job. Everyone comes together with some love.
That’s just and example, but one that shows how LOVE is good stuff.  Unfortunately, sometime unknowingly, people choose its polar opposite and it leads to division.

In relationships, men are trained to look at a woman as weak.  Often because she is seen as the loving, expressive one.  I have something to share gentlemen.  To LOVE that openly is the scariest and most powerful thing anyone can do.  More powerful than killing, or firing a bomb.  Love keeps you from firing that bomb or weapon unless absolutely necessary to prevent casualties, not for personal gain.

I don’t think Obama would be successful as President if he had not learned that.  It is why Mother Teresa and Princess Diana gave so much to the world.  It is why Dr. King and Mandela are revered by so many and were able to lead hopeless people on both sides out of an oppressive state of mind.  The power of LOVE is unlike anything else in the world.  It heals and it mends, but it doesn’t tear apart.
A couple of years ago, when I embarked on the LOVE journey, I insecurity-viiwas unaware what it would mean or take me.  I knew the walls around my heart had to come down for good.  Years before, I was devastated by a relationship and unaware, my decision not to HATE that woman, no matter how hurt I was, actually began my healing process.  It opened my eyes to the division I was creating in other areas of my life, particularly discussion about current events and politics.
The wall of division was around my heart and it was keeping me from having anything close to a healthy, loving relationship with a woman.  And I knew after that relationship, I wanted that.  I wanted to LOVE openly and expressively.
What I didn’t know was that when you bring those walls down it opens you to people who will see this new strength as a sign of weakness.  And try to take advantage of it.  It takes time to adjust to that, and find balance.  When I got my feet under me, I found a new type of strength.
That strength allows you to use untapped human potential.  It opens your eyes and ears to see and hear things more clearly.  See, when your heart is hardened, you cannot see or hear past the noise.  Hearing past the noise in this respect is like going to the doctor and learning that you need glasses and a hearing aid.  Equipped with these items, you finally see that the people shouting are frustrated and insecure, because no one can hear them!  Why?  Because those, they are trying to get to hear them, have a heart that is hardened too!  That’s why we see insecure people shooting up a sign memorial
izing a young man who was killed more than fifty years ago because of HATE.  It is why a campaign headquarters is firebombed to incite more HATE.
When you can see that, you look at those yelling like a malnourished child so hungry, they will eat the dirt of negative energy and harbor pain and hurt.  No one hearing their need to be fed, causes them nothing more but insecurity.
That’s why we celebrate those iconic historical figures Mother Teresa, Lady Diana, King and Mandela. They left LOVE and wonderful examples, yet often those on the right side of history ignore them!
I have good friends on both sides of the political aisle.  I love them likeinsecurity family.  I listen to their sound arguments about the political landscape.  And sadly, I also hear their contempt for the other side too.  And that’s what pains me.  Let me be clear, they
are all good people, that is why they are my friends and they are on both the liberal and conservative sides.
That brings me back to Trump.  Isn’t that what he does?  If you listen to him, there are some good points he brings up.  But it is so hard to find, becaus
e there is this wall of contempt and hate that is right there in front of us.
And that is why I’m suggesting that we stop calling him these names.  Pity him if anything, but love him despite his insecurities.
Love him? Yes!  Love him for paving the way for our first woman President.
Love him, for helping us communicate with those who were in the shadows harboring their insecurities. They are in the light now and after this election, one of the two sides are going to need love too.
Now that we see each other we are going to have to get to know each other.  Believe it or not, we have more in common with than not.  For one, if we are attacked again, it is an attack on our country, and that is all of us.
The reality is we are not going to like everyone, but like isn’t lohateve.
I promise that loving, will help you see clearly.  It will give you a high better than a drug. It will make you so positive and optimistic.  It will provide clar
ity instead of making you like a deer, stuck in place, blinded by the lights of an oncoming car.  Hate feeds negativity and pessimism and helps you focus on a way to get out of the way of the oncoming car.
Don’t be blinded by hate. My friends abroad say we as a nation don’t look so good.  They see our HATE on full display.  If we hate each other, how will we treat them, is what they wonder.
I tell them as I am telling you, yes, I am high.  My LOVE drug tells me, our best days are still in front of us.  It is good to see those better days ahead.  I promise everything because of this is going to change for the better.  We can and will get there faster, if you take this drug and see Trump and his supporters for who they are, insecure.
If you are still reading humor me and answer this, What do we stand to gain, by calling the man a racist if he is really insecure?  And do you agree, if we all LOVE, we could move forward faster, together?
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Open Letter to Donald Trump from a College Educated White woman re: your relationship with African-Americans.

Mr. Trump,

I could address various subjects, however I would like to focus on your relationship with African-Americans.

Caucasian to Caucasian.

First a suggestion… While it has been noted you recently switched from calling people “the Blacks” to “the African-Americans”, I feel you should drop the word “the.” It really sounds like you are speaking of objects, or even aliens…certainly not people like you or me.

Secondly, I recognize that you are playing to your nearly all White supporters. I get that it makes them feel good to see you appearing to care about African-Americans so you can’t be called a racist and therefore they don’t have to be charged with supporting a racist. From a strategy point, I understand why you recently started “caring” about the Black Community in spite of knowing you will not receive 1% of their votes …based on your history of housing discrimination, the language you use to describe some minorities, and your reluctance to distance yourself from White Nationalists. (Among other things)

I get that even “caring” about African-Americans in the way you do – continually professing your sadness over their hellish conditions – is meant to make your supporters feel good about themselves and confirm their belief they are at least one notch up from Blacks in their condition and status.

While I understand your strategy, I wholly condemn it. I cringe along with every Black person I know each time you outline the hellish conditions you and your supporters want to believe they all live in. So, for you and your supporters I would like to tell you about my experience with African-Americans – many of whom are like family.

The African-Americans I am friends with do not live in hell and certainly disagree with you that this is the worst time to be Black in America. For instance, they would say it was likely worse when our constitution considered people like them to be only 3/5ths of a human being. By stating this is the worst time in history for African-Americans is insulting to all intelligent Americans who know, acknowledge and respect the weight of our history. It is downright stupid and unbelievably insensitive to the Black community as it is a sign you have no regard for what they and their ancestors have experienced in this country.

As for African-Americans having nothing to lose by voting for you…

The friends and acquaintances of mine who are African-American would disagree that their lives are so miserable, they might as well give you a shot! They are all college educated – many having more education than your average supporter. They are all good family men and family women raising amazing children. They represent a multitude of religions and beliefs. They travel the world and continually learn and grow. They are successfully employed with titles like: Doctor, Sales Manager, Lawyer, Small Business Owner, Teacher, Controller, Auto Dealer, Public Relations Professional, College Football Coach, TV Personality, Political Consultant, Entrepreneur, Pastor, Soldier, Police Officer… I could go on! They are some of the spokes of the wheels that move America forward – just as I am.

My male friends who are African-American – some of whom were once athletes and actually spent time in locker rooms – would never talk of sexually harassing women, much less do it! They also aren’t on 3 marriages with children from all these different women.

My African-American friends are not living in the mystical inner city hell holes you like to depict. Some of them are certainly living in city centers in amazing lofts. Some are in suburbs all over the country. Some are living in the south in safe all Black neighborhoods full of manicured lawns and beautiful homes, the likes of which many of your supporters couldn’t imagine based on the way you describe neighborhoods “the Blacks” live in.

So, please spare us with your fake concern for African-Americans and your insulting commentary. If you want to address concerns the Black Community has, start with criminal justice reform and racial profiling – things that affect African-Americans of all ages and walks of life. Stop talking nonsense about imposing something unconstitutional like “Stop and Frisk.” Stop using the Black community to spread stereotypes and falsehoods. Recognize that while there are some poor Black people in America, they are simply human beings and no different than poor White people in the Appalachian Mountains or elsewhere, with the exception of the color of their skin and the biases they face because of that difference. Yes, there are Black Americans living in terrible situations in literal war zones created by failed government policies having nothing to do with safety net programs. But, don’t you dare continue to imply that this is the standard and millions of African-Americans aren’t better off.

As a White woman who actually has deep, meaningful relationships with people of other races I am speaking up because it is beyond embarrassing to watch you – a White man – parade around with such nonsense. It is infuriating to watch your majority White supporters eat it up. It is terrifying to see you empower White Nationalists who hate my African-American friends, my Jewish Friends, my Asian and Middle Eastern friends….and me for embracing them all.

You will not make America Great Again for people like you, because too many of us are too educated and motivated to ever allow this country to go back to the days where your antics were the norm.

I know you will fight until the bitter end and then some. Just know I am not alone in my thinking. There is an army of College Educated White women fighting with me and we will do what we can to stand up against you and for the rights and respect of all Americans.

I will only sign this as anonymous because in the unlikely event this reaches you or your supporters, I do not wish to be subjected to the barrage of hate mail and misogyny I have seen against others who have spoken up against you.

Good day, Mr. Trump
This article was prepared and submitted by an author who wishes to remain anonymous in their personal capacity. The opinions expressed are the author’s own and do not reflect the view of Cognitive Relevance.